The interest in BDSM sex acts, as well as in everything else you’re going to do with your partner by mutual agre. One of the easiestement, is absolutely normal for couples. Spicing up your intimate life is a vital issue. But do not try doing anything after watching only few porn movies with professional “dominators”. The key principle of BDSM is safety, and unfortunately, unskillful partners can easily cause physical and even emotional traumas during such love games. We offer you few safe and funny BDSM practices for beginners.

1. Spanking

Forms of BDSM requires a lot of prudence and care. Even regular slaps can be rather painful than tempting. Therefore, follow simple rules:

● Warm up the skin. Begin with caress and light spanks, then make them stronger. Focus on a particular area until it blush.
● Follow the rhythm. It is like with sexual intercourse. A clear rhythm brings more relaxing feelings.
● Use skin care products afterwards.

Taboo: punishing for real actions, using whips and other objects (only for experienced).

2. Hands tying

Bondage practices are one of the most tempting and pleasant. The kinkiest forms include a complete restraining, but let’s start with the simplest. The feelings usually enhance when you restrict the access to source of pleasure. When we have sex, we love touching our partner’s body and ourselves, so the best way to make it hotter is tight the hands. Despite it looks easy, hands tying is way more traumatizing in fact. So, how to do it right?

● Use soft objects you can find at home like scarves, neckties or stockings.
● Never leave a partner alone with hands tied for a long time.
● Don’t make it too tight and leave some space when you make a knot.

Taboo: adhesive tape, handcuffs (especially the real ones), plastic cable ties.

3. Role games

What is the connection between the role playing and BDSM? Some potential characters to play symbolize weakness, defenselessness, and require submission. Your partner can play a strict teacher, a demanding house owner or a doctor. Accordingly, the submissive roles are naughty student, scared housekeeper, and vulnerable patient. Moreover, acting out a rape also is one of the most popular types of BDSM when we speak about sexual role playing. If you discuss every detail and agree on everything and make up a safeword, there is nothing to be afraid of.

When you dare playing such games, the key rule to remember is precisely to talk about boundaries and forbidden actions like brutality or humiliations.

4. Experiments with temperatures

The temperature contrast is one of the most available and easy forms of BDSM anyone can try. But once again, it may be very dangerous. Burns and hypothermia are common for dummies in this field, so be very careful:
● Emphasize the temperature difference. Do not use something very hot or cold. For instance, do a massage with warm aroma oil and then tease your partner with ice cubes.
● Use items locally, do not use ice-cold or super-hot liquids on the whole body.
● Tie their eyes to make it more exciting.

Taboo: hot wax and regular candles (there are special harmless candles for sex games), pour hot or cold water abruptly (it causes shock), use metal items.

5.Tickling

Sometimes tickling can be a real torture, but we definitely recommend you to try it in a bedroom. So, how to bring your partner new sensual experience with tickling?

● Make it softly with fingers tips, focus on the most delicate parts of a body.
● Investigate the erogenous zones with a special tassel or feather.
● Better do it before sex as a regular foreplay.

Taboo: using sharp objects (needles or knives).

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